“hold off, Is This a Date?” Podcast Episode 108: initially Dates | Autostraddle

This week we’re joined by publisher,

To L and Right Back

co-host, future television exec, and my personal roomie
Analyssa Lopez
! We’re writing on very first dates — the whom, the what, the wherein, the that, and also the how.

Nevertheless before we enter our very own genuine internet dating schedules, Christina fanfics the the most popular queer celebs in a game of enjoy Triangles!


PROGRAM NOTES

+ One gay hug wasn’t sufficient to get

Nine Perfect Strangers

higher than #42 inside my
Nicole Kidman standing
.

+ like Triangle celebs pulled from Christina’s ever-delightful
No filtration column
.

+ Christina and I also talked more and more basic dates once we happened to be on
Bad with cash
.

+ Analyssa’s crush of the week
shining on TikTok
.

+ additionally a fun anecdote about Jessica Chastain: we noticed the lady perform a Q&A after a screening for

Molly’s Game

and she was very positioned and comfortable and artificial however in a superb simple method. I got the thought,

I bet Jessica Chastain never struggles to deliver an email

. And because after that when I’m creating a business-y email i simply say to myself personally,

You Are Jessica Chastain. You’re Jessica Chastain.

Performs pretty well.

+ Listed Here Is
my personal meeting with Isabel Sandoval
and listed here are
the woman films from the Criterion Channel
.

+ Do you notice the headlines? The morning news? Christina is
recapping

The Day Show

.



Christina:

One of my personal very first time techniques is actually guaranteeing maybe not asking any questions. I am going to come-back from a romantic date and my pals was love, “exactly how was just about it? Precisely what do they actually do? Where perform they stay?” And that I’ll wind up as, “not a clue. I obtained nothing.” I don’t know what I converse when it comes to on times, but it is never any relevant details that anybody may wish to notice on a follow upwards, because i am usually want, ok last one, I’m sure they usually have a career. I don’t know what it is.


Theme song performs


Drew:

Hi, I Am Drew.


Christina:

I Am Christina.


Drew:

And introducing,

Hold off, Is It a Date?


Christina:


Hold off, So Is This a Date?

is an Autostraddle podcast dedicated to answering the age old question: delay, is this a date?


Drew:

Daily we get increasingly more clearness and find out more plus ideas on how to keep in touch with each other and all of our society.


Christina:

Wow. That was so beautiful and touching.


Drew:

Cheers.


Christina:

Plus therefore softly robot in a fashion that i truly appreciated.


Drew:

Great. Choosing like queer cult. Yeah.


Christina:

Yeah. Okay. Because you’ve watched, simply how much? You done

Nine Perfect Visitors

past?


Drew:

Used to do. We saw almost everything in one day. Really, plus the last episode was the day after, while we built my personal brand new bookshelf. It actually was a real winning… that is how much focus need fond of that tv system.


Christina:

So that you’re not coming at all of us from a proper space, as you had been in a cult.


Drew:

Yeah, which was a couple of days in the past. It isn’t sufficient to actually have messed with me too much. But you understand what? Often terrible television is essential, particularly when it stars lots of stars. Oh, we should mention whom the audience is.


Christina:

Oh yeah. Correct.


Drew:

We often do this.


Christina:

Right here our company is writing about

Nine Best Strangers,

a tv program nobody cares about.


Drew:

Okay, well i’m Drew Gregory. I’m a writer for Autostraddle. I’m a filmmaker, I’m a trans person, I’m a lesbian individual. Yeah. And I would love Nicole Kidman.


Christina:

Incredible work. I Am Christina Tucker. In addition a writer for Autostraddle, Im a lesbian person also happy that

The Day Show

has returned inside my existence because it’s truly been, really, destroying it, however in a good way. We love terrible television!


Drew:

Yeah. Which is good quality poor tv. Which is outstanding. Yeah.


Christina:

Chef’s kiss. Cook’s hug.


Drew:

Well, should we get into our very own video game?


Christina:

Im therefore enthusiastic to find out, what’s originating from the small head today?


Drew:

Okay.


Christina:

Just what horrors perhaps you have produced?


Drew:

So this game is called fancy Triangles.


Christina:

Oh man.


Drew:

And you’ll notice that You will find a cap right here. Okay?


Christina:

Okay.


Drew:

And within the cap tend to be bits of report having 10 reoccurring people who arrive on Christinaisn’ filtration line, which will be dedicated to celebrity gossip and Instagram posts. Then absolutely the title and my personal title. And I’m probably pick three labels from this hat, and you are browsing apply your brilliant Christina fanfic limit, and simply let me know what the really love triangle would be between those three individuals.


Christina:

Wow. Okay. I’m going to simply take a sip of Diet Coke and that I’m likely to be prepared because of this.


Drew:

Yeah. Exactly what the vibrant could well be. Okay. Which Means You see—


Christina:

Everyone loves you set situations in a hat. It is thus bodily.


Drew:

Yeah. I like it. I mean, it really is a podcast, therefore there is no-one to actually trust, but I vow that, one, I’m not searching. Two, it really is all haphazard. Okay. Ready?


Christina:

m4m hookups-hmm (affirmative).


Drew:

Okay. Therefore the first-name is Tessa Thompson.


Christina:

Famous.


Drew:

Hayley Kiyoko.


Christina:

Mm.


Drew:

And Rosie O’Donnell.


Christina:

Today this might be interesting, because exactly what the fuck are those three people doing with each other? My personal gut says that Tessa and Rosie are probably will be all of our main primary triangle times here, because personally i think like that’s the one plausible way to approach this drilling trolley ass dilemma of a love triangle that you have provided me personally. Therefore I feel just like they, I don’t know, came across at an event, Tessa was actually experiencing wild. She had been like, “its Rosie O’Donnell. I’m going to get together with Rosie O’Donnell because exactly why the hell maybe not?” That may seem like her fuel.


Drew:

Absolutely.


Christina:

I really do believe Hayley was entered into this triangle because possibly she’s had a crush on Tessa for a time plus they found at some purpose. And I don’t believe Tessa is within in whatever way, like, “oh, I can’t date their.” She’s similar to, “yeah, we could vibe, we are able to hang.” But In my opinion Hayley’s a little hung-up on like, “wait, however you connected with Rosie O’Donnell, the Rosie O’Donnell? How performed that happen?”


Drew:

Mm-hmm (affirmative).


Christina:

Really don’t consider absolutely any actual tension inside triangle. I do believe there is certainly a bit insecurity and some concern.


Drew:

I see.


Christina:

I don’t know the way we’re solving it because again, I just feel Tessa only definitely vibes aside. She’s going to end up like, I got to get spend time with Rita Ora and Tayo Otiti sooner or later, so capture you lates. But i actually do imagine, I’m not sure, possibly right at the end it closes with Hayley and Rosie bonding at some form of brunch.


Drew:

Oh, I Enjoy that.


Christina:

Like, yeah, man. That is generational lesbians. That is like, we’re passing the torch. In my opinion that would be really stunning, in all honesty.


Drew:

This is certainly beautiful.


Christina:

Definitely additionally very disorderly.


Drew:

Yeah. Why don’t we move on to the second random trio.


Christina:

Oh child.


Drew:

Okay. It is therefore Niecy Nash.


Christina:

Waiting around for that one.


Drew:

Hunter Schafer.


Christina:

Uh-huh (affirmative).


Drew:

And Holland Taylor.


Christina:

Well, today.


Drew:

Wow.


Christina:

Huh. Yet again you’ve got positioned me in a difficult circumstance. Now, What i’m saying is, i assume it is like, we must start out with Holland and Niecy. I am not sure what exactly is taking place right here. Both come into happy interactions.


Drew:

Yeah.


Christina:

I’m not sure if anybody knows that Niecy Nash is totally obsessed with the woman wife, but this woman is, and I also’m sure she actually is posted at the very least six times today about that reality.


Drew:

Appear, sometimes love triangles tend to be unrequited.


Christina:

I think it’s going to need to be, but I feel like it’s unrequited in just about every screwing path. What’s Hunter Schafer carrying out right here? Hunter Schafer is like a dang teenager only vibing.


Drew:

Early 20s. Just want to clarify.


Christina:

I mentioned everything I said. That is the exact same age. Jenna from

The Office,

it is the same picture. Come on. This one, i would need throw the bath towel in regarding. We really don’t understand.


Drew:

Okay. We can additionally place the names in. Wait, I want to place Hunter Schafer in.


Christina:

Yeah.


Drew:

So We going to perform—


Christina:

Take myself something different. I will create something occur with Niecy and Holland. I’m not sure what, it’s very dramatic.


Drew:

Oh. Okay. This is exactly an extremely interesting trio. Gillian Anderson.


Christina:

Oh. today, Gillian, famously semi recently single, provides a puppy, additionally true. She is don’t online dating the guy from

The Crown

that made the woman feel Margaret Thatcher, which I think is most likely to find the best. Now, hmm. See, I feel like somebody’s merely browsing need feelings for Niecy inside the corner because she’s merely performing her thing.


Drew:

That’s a very good point. That’s the point.


Christina:

She’s simply performing her thing. I think Holland and Sarah, I’m not sure, they are able to get freaky. There might be possibly, perhaps they ask Gillian over for beverages. Maybe situations have a tiny bit spicy. Whom could say? Possibly Niecy comes with Jessica. Perhaps Jessica leaves very early. Maybe there is feelings on all sides. Again, I’m not sure truly what is actually happening because i cannot think about the majority of these folks in the same area together. It is exciting to think about, for me personally. We’ll spend a lot of the time great deal of thought afterwards. Today, though?


Drew:

Yeah. It may undoubtedly be an orgy moment with the partners involved, like enjoy Gillian Anderson becoming unmarried.


Christina:

I think that might be it. In my opinion they could have received with each other and already been like, let’s get this noted bisexual into some puss. In my opinion that may be incredible.


Drew:

Wow. Exactly what an amazing fivesome that will be. Okay. Moving forward.


Christina:

Additionally, is it possible to simply ask one concern in regards to the hat? Will it be like a news boy cap?


Drew:

It’s. There isn’t like a… It really is a fairly low hat, but There isn’t plenty of caps. So it is—


Christina:

I am pleased one that you have is a newsboy cap.


Drew:

It is a tiny bit newsboy cap. Yeah. I think We pull it off occasionally.


Christina:

You’ve got the locks for this. I do believe it.


Drew:

Thanks.


Christina:

Mm-hmm (affirmative).


Drew:

Okay. Demi Lovato.


Christina:

Incredible.


Drew:

Christina Tucker. And Cara Delevingne.


Christina:

Interesting. Today that is fascinating. Because operating me into let me reveal not something I usually would. I don’t often compose audience fic for the reason that it’s—


Drew:

I understand.


Christina:

Awkward.


Drew:

Really let’s embarrass you.


Christina:

Let’s embarrass me. So Cara’s had some kind of gathering, correct, at her bonkers house or apartment with the snatch canal and all of the Leo sculptures from inside the backyard, that’s what’s happening. I believe Demi features chosen that they’re going to go to, but is maybe still slightly stressed about probably a celebration as of this lunatic lesbian’s residence because famously, compound problems tend to be difficult. A celebration at Cara’s house is getting odd quickly. There is a complete area that is just a ball gap. I really don’t know very well what’s happening there. And I famously you should not love events or men and women. And so I feel like possibly Demi and that I have actually connected in certain sort of peaceful individuals region. My personal abdomen feels like Cara simply desires start some shit and simply tries to get in between that in some manner, simply for the drama benefit of it all. Brings her gender counter power to this due to the fact, then cause turmoil, if you possibly could? additionally a Leo, she’s going to be like, hello, how come the eye not on myself?


Drew:

Therefore, the concern that I have is actually Cara splitting up your and Demi’s stunning by going for you or going for Demi? What type of you strays?


Christina:

That Is Certainly what I are unable to… Hmm. Hmm. My gut feels like I have to state Demi, but that is only because Really don’t feel I would do that. And that I think method of poor stating that Demi should do that, once again, one I do not know and will probably can’t say for sure. But possibly because I’m not performing that.


Drew:

Yeah. But I feel as you’re faithful of laziness. Therefore I have no idea when you have to feel terrible about any of it.


Christina:

Absolutely. That is a notorious motto, end up being sluggish because it’s effortless.


Drew:

Yeah.


Christina:

Hello.


Drew:

Okay.


Christina:

Yeah. And I also also think Cara would exhaust me personally.


Drew:

Yeah. That’s probably correct. I would love to see it though.


Christina:

Oh yes. I really could be exhausted for like a weekend. I really could be exhausted for like a weekend or two.


Drew:

Okay. This is actually the finally one. It really is Kiki Palmer.


Christina:

Fun.


Drew:

Hunter Schafer, who had been put in the hat considering age variations. And me. Wow. I really like that I’m a part of this. What? Delighted birthday celebration for me.


Christina:

Okay. Therefore Drew is in really love with both Kiki Palmer and Hunter Schafer. That is where we’re starting.


Drew:

Obviously.


Christina:

I don’t truly know in which we’re stopping from that point because that merely seems like what’s going to take place. See, Kiki has actually this, the things I like about Kiki Palmer, one of the numerous things i really like about Kiki Palmer, is that she actually is 27 years of age and also the energy of a 45 year-old Black lady at all times throughout the day. I believe it really is incredible to own these types of big auntie power at her young age. And I just feel like in a love triangle scenario, she’d resemble, “Oh no, I’m children of Jesus. I got eventually to get. This is simply not for me. Y’all do what you need to perform, but I am all set using this.” Therefore perhaps you and Kiki have actually connected before now Hunter provides entered the scene and Hunter’s want, Ooh, i obtained a crush about individual. And maybe Kiki is just like, yeah, i am allowing it to get.


Drew:

Hold off, Hunter has actually a crush on me? Not Kiki?


Christina:

Without a doubt.


Drew:

Oh, thanks a lot. Wow.


Christina:

Come-on.


Drew:

Wow. Just what some sort of, where I’m starting up with Kiki Palmer. And then that features to finish because I begin online dating Hunter Schafer.


Christina:

After all exactly what a world whereby I’m too lazy to hack on Demi Lovato. There’s lots of planets that we’re going through.


Drew:

Wow.


Christina:

Yeah. But In my opinion all of you positively vibe, but i believe it finishes because Hunter is much like, mm, i wish to perform even more using my existence. I do want to get out here and enjoy some shit. She’s young.


Drew:

After all, I’m Sure. Which is fine.


Christina:

I understand. And Kiki’s similar, if anybody desires to come more than on Sunday for brunch, you’re pleasant.


Drew:

Oh, thus Kiki and I remain buddies?


Christina:

I think everyone continues to be pals within scenario.


Drew:

Oh, which is nice. That is wonderful. All right, I Love that


Christina:

I do not consider there’s genuine damage feelings. In my opinion everybody’s like, yeah, development. It needs to happen.


Drew:

Yeah. That is great. I really like this. Really, this was a pleasure. Many thanks for having fun with myself.


Christina:

Thanks a lot for, i am contacting this The Newsboy cover video game.


Drew:

Great. Go complete Admiration Triangles. Its today a Newsboy Cover.


Christina:

Yeah. No, that was really enjoyable.


Drew:

I’m therefore glad. Well, In my opinion it’s the perfect time that individuals go into our major subject with the week with our really unique guest. Very our topic this week is very first dates, and, really unique visitor, do you wish to present your self?


Analyssa:

I do. Thanks a lot for asking. I’m Analyssa I am also the co-host of Autostraddle’s

To L and Right Back

podcast with Drew along with Riese. So when Drew and Christina performed their unique intro, I had to chew my personal tongue never to state, “i am Analyssa!” Which is frequently my personal intro.


Christina:

You probably did a fantastic job, and I also thanks’re recognized to hear it, genuinely.


Analyssa:

Yeah. I assist co-host the

To L and Right Back

podcast, I’ve authored two things for Autostraddle. I work on a TV facility, so the admiration Triangles video game thought really exclusively created for my personal existence additionally. While listener, first time person.


Christina:

Incredible.


Analyssa:

Et cetera, etc. Hello everybody.


Drew:

And, my personal roomie. Very in fact, we have been tracking this independently for noise reasons, but our company is in areas with a wall between united states.


Christina:

It is beautiful things. And that I love this synergy, this Autostraddle cross advertising terminology.


Analyssa:

It’s a bit like, performed I get on pod considering nepotism? Like variety of.


Christina:

Yes. But in fairness to you, all of our visitors have received throughout the pod so far due to nepotism. Therefore?


Drew:

Ana, should I ask you something openly about this podcast? As I reference the wall in between all of our rooms. I can not make use of my personal dildo while men and women are residence, correct? Our walls are way too slim. Or maybe you have not heard? Perhaps you have not heard it?


Analyssa:

I’ve heard one intercourse sound from the area.


Drew:

Okay. Once is not terrible.


Christina:

Well, today I have some follow through concerns. One lone intercourse sound? Or was just about it a continued rumble of a vibrator?


Analyssa:

No, i simply mean one instance.


Christina:

Gotcha.


Drew:

Okay. I could live with that.


Analyssa:

Therefore we can talk about that traditional because i do believe i am aware if it was, so if you have significantly more concerns we can talk.


Drew:

Cool.


Christina:

I’d want to be engaged.


Drew:

Yeah. Christina, you’ll come.


Christina:

Also thrilled to post anyone some sort of white noise machine, i do believe could also carry out wonders.


Drew:

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